I have been reading a book called “Misconceptions” by Naomi Wolf. It exposes many of the lies and half truths women are told about childbirth.
I have been brought close to tears reading it when I realize how many women go through so many of the things brought up in this book. I have hurt so much for women who have been told things about birth, only to discover it was not exactly true. Worse yet, the ones who have been told by those “in authority” things have to be done a certain way or you are a bad parent or that they are risking the lives of their unborn children. Many of these same people actually have an agenda of their own and are trying to make sure you comply with their agenda or plans.
I am grateful that here in Southwest Missouri we have a little reprieve from this because we have access to doulas and we have had some strong pioneers in the childbirth world here in our community. I am grateful to have a job where I can help women navigate these difficulties and present truth to them. I am grateful, yet saddened, by the reality of our current status concerning women and childbirth.
I hope I can be one of the forces of change for women when it comes to childbirth. Even if it is only my small little world I can change, maybe it will grow and reach far. If only I can help the ones I serve in the capacity of a doula then it will at least be something. I hope I can be a better doula now coming to terms with what I am teaching my clients and making sure they have the information they need, not just the “company line” when it comes to their choices. I hope I never let one of my clients go into the moment of birth without knowing their options.
I can’t believe how lucky I am to have such an awesome job. Getting to be there when a family is created is beyond awesome. I am so grateful I am allowed this chance to be a part of this life changing experience.
I know you may not agree, but being a doula is so perfect to me. I understand not everyone would want to be there for the whole messy business. I am just grateful I get to.
I am so excited! I have two births due in the next 10 days, a Women’s Expo and the Cox Baby Fair! I have to admit I love the occasional moments of craziness when there is a lot to do but the rush is sometimes so fun it doesn’t matter if you have to sleep for a week after.
I am so excited about the two families I have coming up who are due in the next two days. I know they are practicing positions, and doing everything they can to get ready for their new arrivals. I just hope they don’t go on the same day! That would be a problem…
The Women’s Expo is exciting for me too. I actually love getting trade show’s up and running and working them. I just hope my business cards arrive in time. They should be here any day now. Anabellum417 business cards… hopefully brochures and maybe even the website up and running. I have the domain name paid for now, I just hope I can get the website up and working in time for the Expo!
I am really looking forward to the next month or so with so much going on. My business is growing, women are experiencing the miracle of childbirth, and daddy’s are getting to meet their little ones for the first time. I love being there when a little family is born!
I had a wonderful weekend attending Birth Doula training again. This time it was with a different instructor and she came from a different background than my first instructor. It made for another good learning experience and an example of why we need to keep continuing our education.
I loved the fact I was able to learn some new techniques or at least new to me. I also really liked hearing the same information from a different background and different set of experiences. Getting to meet several women who are coming into the field is also really good. They are bringing such a wealth of new experiences and have such a drive to work with women and families it will only help the profession.
I think it also helped this time around because since I have gone through it before and have actually been at several births, the information seemed to really sink in a little better and I was really able to gain a little more out of it. Truthfully, the first time I went through it I was so nervous, scared and had so little confidence in myself I didn’t get near as much out of it as I could have. This time I felt so much more confident, so much more a part of the world we were talking about I am really sure I processed more information. Especially the practical application sessions. I remember the first time I was in training and we practiced techniques on each other I was very nervous about touching someone I didn’t know and letting them touch me. Now, I am so used to it and trust myself so much more it made the practical sessions really helpful in brushing up on my techniques and working out a kink or two in a technique I was having problems with.
There is no such thing as learning too much and even when it is the same information you have already heard before, sometimes it is really amazing what a difference of a couple of years can make. I am really glad I had the privilege of going through training again and putting my “better honed” skills to the test!
I have been really enjoying my time training with other women who want to become post-partum doula’s. I have learned so much from them and really found a group of people who I can identify with and learn from. It has been great to see so many different women from such varied walks of life who have so much to offer.
I believe I am the only grandmother in the class, but I’m not the oldest. There are women who are in the early stages of motherhood and life, and there are others who are older and wiser than me but have not had the privilege of becoming a grandmother yet. We have nurses, lactation consultants, business women and stay-at-home mom’s as well as the professional birth doula’s in the room. I have enjoyed getting to know them and sharing our passion for women and families.
Everyone has their reasons for choosing to take the training, but behind everyone’s reason is the desire to help women and families become better. Some of us want to help make sure our experiences aren’t repeated. A few in the group just have a passion for women. Whatever the reason, I am sure this will be such a beneficial training for all of us.
I have realized it is actually a little more time intensive than a birth doula. With a birth doula I may be gone for a day or more in one shot, but it’s only 3 or so times a month. As a post-partum doula I would be gone on a more regular schedule every week, visiting the family and educating and equipping them to be a better family unit. I may put more emphasis on being a birth doula for now with only limited time spent with post-partum clients since the twins are so young and need more consistant child care.
Once other thing I have learned so much about is post-partum mood disorders. I know I suffered this with my second child and it was a serious difficulty for me to get past but I didn’t know what was wrong. It wasn’t talked about then and if it was very little was available to help you with it. I didn’t actually get help until he was 3 or 4 years old. It’s a wonder he made it to be the wonderful young man he is today. I have learned the things I thought about myself were not unusual and there are so many women who have felt the same way. It has actually empowered me a little bit to free me from some of the guilt I feel from thinking I was a failed mother at that stage of my life. There are so many warning signs and so many things we can do now to help a family who is experiencing issues with post-partum mood disorders. I also learned even father’s can experience some of the same feelings and issues, but they don’t want anyone to know about it.
I am really excited to put this new knowledge to work and am looking forward to getting my certification completed so I can pair up all of my skills to be the best doula (woman who serves) I can be.
Tomorrow morning, bright and early, I start my official training as a Post-Partum Doula. Three days of training and learning with other women who are thinking like me. It should be fun.
I have to admit, I loved my training as a Birth Doula and I am looking very forward to the Post-Partum Doula training. We have a teacher who has come from Iowa do the training and there are 10 women signed up. As a full-time SAHGMA (see my other blogs for more fun on the world of stay-at-home grand-parenting) I often don’t get to spend time with other women in a setting without toddler twins helping me out. The chance to have an intelligent conversation with an adult is exciting to me.
Stay tuned for tomorrow’s post because I will probably be all fun of good ideas and my brain will probably be going 90 miles an hour, or worse!
I wanted to get going on more of being a Doula today and went ahead and set up a blog specifically for all things baby.
What exactly is Anabellum417? Anabellum is a made-up word my father suggested because I am a Birth Doula, planning to get my certification in Antepartum (pre-partum) care, as well as post-partum and I offer belly casting and other pregnancy belly artwork. Ana stands for the work I do with moms before birth, the bell stands for all things baby belly related and the “um” stands for uhm, well, everything else. I liked it and so here we are. The 417 refers to our area code which helps people know the area I serve. So there you have it, Anabellum417.
I am a Birth-Doula, or childbirth companion, in the Springfield/Branson area of Missouri. I have trained with DONA and work with the Doula Foundation of Mid-America and my certification is pending final review. The website http://dona.org, can tell you all sorts of information on what a Birth Doula is and why it is so important to have one if you are expecting a baby. There will be times when I will share the benefits of having a Birth Doula on this blog.
I am so thankful to have the chance to work with women and families as they welcome a new life into the world. The birth of a child is such a miracle and to have the opportunity to be a part of it is such a gift.
Please check back with me often and check out my facebook page, Carrie Lynne – Birth Doula. If you have questions, please leave them here in the comments section, message me on my facebook page, or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I would be happy to answer any questions you might have.